Grandma Della married John P. Lancaster (above) around 1902. John, also born in May of 1883, was nearly the same age as his young wife. They were both born and raised in the Catawba area so its likely they grew up knowing each other, maybe they were longtime sweethearts. That would be speculation as nothing about their marriage has yet been found, not even their marriage date.
I know more about his parents than I do of him. John N. Lancaster, his father, was born in Kentucky in 1840 and was living in Pendleton County by the time he was ten years old. He was still at home in 1860, but joined the Union Army in October of 1861, served in Company A, Kentucky 18th Infantry Regiment throughout the war. John N. was discharged in July 1865, and returned to Pendleton County to marry the widow Elizabeth Morgan Bowling shortly thereafter. I don’t know whether Elizabeth’s first husband, William Bowling, died in the war, but he was born in Virginia, and might have served for the Confederates in a Kentucky Mounted Infantry company.John N married Elizabeth in 1866 or 1867 and raised her three young children. Elizabeth had twelve children to reach adulthood. Nine of them were with John N. Lancaster. John P. was next to the youngest. He appeared only in the 1900 US Census, and was living with his parents and younger brother Arthur.
1903 must have been a terrible year for Grandma. Her brother Ben (above) came down with a mysterious illness. He was closest to her, both in age and companionship. Grandma nursed him, even though she was pregnant, but there was nothing to be done. He lay in bed with a fever for several months before he died. His parents buried him in their backyard in Catawba. Shortly after that Grandma had her baby, Mom’s half-brother Arthur. Her husband died just before or just after the birth, and she was left a widow with a young child to support and no way to make a living.Grandma’s first born, Arthur Clarence Lancaster, was most certainly named after his two uncles. “Arthur” after John P. Lancaster’s younger brother, and “Clarence” after Grandma’s older brother, whose nickname was Bud. It’s a mystery as to why he was not named after Ben, in memory of the brother, so dear to her, and who had just passed.
I think Grandma moved back with her parents after John died. My Uncle Arthur grew up in the family home, and his Grandparents helped to raise him. The 1910 US Census listed Arthur living with Grandma’s parents, Charles and Julia Jacobs. Her brother, Clarence (Bud), was still living with them. Both grandparents died two years later.
Uncle Art and Uncle Charlie, Grandma’s oldest, were with great grandmother Julia when she died. The three had taken the horse and buggy to the country to get eggs. She had a stroke on the way back. It was in July and a thunderstorm was raging. The boys, ages nine and six, were frantic but the old horse took its head and brought them all home. Grandpa followed her that December.
Arthur was living with Bud, his wife Minnie, and two year old daughter, Mildred, in Catawba in 1920 (per US Census). It seems Bud had inherited the family home and started his blacksmith business. Sometime in the 1920’s Art moved to Connersville, Indiana to be with his mother and three half-siblings, Charlie, George (Joe), and Hazel (my mother). He married in about 1928 to Marjorie Louise May of Orange, Indiana. All my memories of Uncle Art and Aunt Marj are centered around their little farm on the edge of Orange. (Photo page 5 - Grandma, Uncle Art, and me)
There is no telling now, but I can’t help to think that her life might have been happier if John P. had lived longer than the few years allotted him. Her second husband looked promising on the surface, but appearances can be deceiving. GO TO: Part 3a, Grandfather Bert Frank
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